People have different views on whether parents should choose their children’s friends or spouses or whether children should do this themselves. Both of these schools of thought could be true in their own right, but I agree with the latter opinion.
On the one hand, it could be beneficial for children if parents help them choose friends or spouses. Since parents have lived longer than their children and gained more experience over the years about individuals’ behavior, they might discriminate and give their personal suggestions to choose a loyal partner. Moreover, there are a number of youngsters who are not able to make a choice in that they may hesitate and make wrong decisions. In Uzbekistan, for example, mothers play an important role in choosing spouses for their children, and many males marry the girls whom their mothers recommend.
On the other hand, children need to choose friends or future wives themselves. Although mothers and fathers could assist in finding partners for them, they do not live with them. If children depend on their mothers’ decisions and converse with individuals whom their parents prefer, they may live with them not for love, but instead, for their families’ decision; and, as the youngsters do not choose them themselves, they will not lead a happy life with strange people. For instance, in Japan, families do not interfere when adolescents find a spouse so as not to deteriorate their children’s future lifestyles.
In conclusion, while parents’ decisions could be important for adults in such cases, children should do so without any external suggestions.