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Naomi Wolf, A Woman's Place.
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Even the best of revolutions can go awry when we internalize the attitudes we are fighting.
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The class of 1992 is graduating into a violent backlash against the advances women have made over the last 20 years.
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This backlash ranges from a senator using The Exorcist against Anita Hill to beer commercials with the Swedish bikini team.
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Today I want to give you a backlash Survival kit, a four step manual to keep the Dragons from taking up residence inside your own heads.
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My own commencement at Yale eight years ago was the graduation from hell.
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The speaker was **** Cavett, rumored to have been our president's brother in an allmale secret society.
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Cavett took the microphone and paled at the sight of hundreds of female about to be Yale graduates.
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When I was a graduate, I recall, he said, there were no women.
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The women went to Vassar.
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At Vassar, they had nude photographs taken of the women in gym class to check their posture.
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One year the photos were stolen and turned up for sale in New Haven's red light district, his punchline.
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The photos found no buyers.
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I'll never forget that moment.
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There we were, silent in our black gowns, our tassels, our brand new shoes.
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We dared not break the silence with hisses or booze out of respect for our families who'd come so far.
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And they kept still out of concern for us.
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Consciously or not, Mr.
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Cabot was using the Beauty Myth aspect of the backlash.
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When women come too close to masculine power, someone will draw critical attention to their bodies.
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We might be Elis, but we still wouldn't make *********** worth buying.
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That afternoon, several hundred men were confirmed in the power of a powerful institution, but many of the women felt the shame of the powerless, the choking on silence, the complicity, the helplessness.
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We were orphaned from the institution.
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I want to give you the commencement talk that was denied to me.
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Message number one in your Survival kit redefine becoming a woman.
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Today you have become women, but that sounds odd and ordinary usage.
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What is usually meant by You're a real woman now.
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You become a woman when you menstruate for the first time, or when you lose your virginity, or when you have a child.
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These biological definitions are very different from how we say boys become men.
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One becomes a man when he undertakes responsibility or completes a quest.
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But you too, in some ways more than your male friends graduating today, have moved into maturity through a solidarity quest for the adult self.